Imagine if you could get control of the part of your brain that throws the switch on fear.
Let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is…fear itself
– Franklin D. Roosevelt
What are you afraid of?
Imagine the freedom you could get over your life, in every aspect. You could stop worrying that you’re going to get fired. You could stop worrying that your spouse doesn’t find you attractive anymore. You could stop worrying that you’re business is going to fail and all your friends and family will consider you a failure.
Most of the time, our fears have grown out of something that we are ashamed of. You put on an act for people so they think you’re better at your job than you feel you actually are, so you become terrified that someone will find out.
Since you need to keep up that facade, you end up being dismissive of new ideas and try to grab for any small scraps of glory that roll by.
Asking for Help
One of the most difficult barriers to get past is asking for help. When you ask for help, you are telling someone you can’t do it yourself. Asking for help is something we all struggle with.
The upside of asking for help is the good feeling you are giving to the person you’re asking. Even small asks can have a powerful effect. When the old man in the grocery store asks you to reach something on the top shelf for him – it makes you feel good to help him. When a co-worker asks you to look over a proposal – you know they trust your judgment. When the boss turns towards you and asks your opinion – you have an opportunity to really shine.
So why do we hate asking for help?
Asking for Help at Scale
When Martin and I started laying the plans for a new tool/service/app that would help businesses harvest the most interesting discussion happening around their niche, we knew we would need a lot of help.
Luckily for me, Martin is an expert at asking for help. Asking for help becomes easier every time you do it, and Martin has just spent the last year asking cancer centers all over the country for help with his Cure Cancer Starter non-profit.
We started asking businesses that we knew needed our help to partner with us to test out this new idea. It was actually a terrible pitch when you boil it down – “we have an idea, it won’t be available for 3 months, want to be a beta partner?” Because Martin and I have some credibility with these ideas and certainly with those business owners, ever single one of them agreed right away. The energy that came our way was overwhelming.
Next we had to ask for help curating the best content on the web for the new beta partners. More asking and feedback, and more energy flowed into our startup.
The last few months have been exciting, depressing, exciting and boring. It’s also been scary. Telling your family that you’re going to ditch “normal” life and work long days (and nights) at unproven company that has no paying customers can create some fear.
There’s a scene from Mad Men in season 2 when Peggy has just had an illegitimate child and is in the hospital conflicted and fearful of what lies ahead for her. Don Draper comes to visit and gives her straight-forward advice about what to do.
Move forward” is great advice for anyone who is at a point in their life where they are fearful. Sitting still is never an answer.
Curagami is moving forward. Come join us and come curate for us, we’re hiring.
Share Your Favorite COURAGE Picture
Loved Phil’s post and thought we should ask for our community to share their favorite COURAGE pictures. Here are two of my favorites (my sister Caroline climbing a monster mountain in Colorado and me riding to chemo after Martin’s ride and yes I am SICK then but doing much better now thanks to great docs, friends and family :).